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The 8 Be-Attitudes & 12 Steps of Change in Christ

Week 7(June 4 – 10)

Sunday – Principle 7&8

Reserve a daily time with God for self-examination, Bible Reading, and prayer in order to know God and His will for my life and to gain the power to Follow his will.

Yield myself to God to be used to bring this Good news to others, both by my example and by my words.

Scripture Reading:  “Happy are those who are persecuted because they do what God requires.”  Matthew 5:10

Every Christian needs to have a daily time that we spend with God considering our life in Christ, Bible reading, and praying.  This is a time we consider how faithful we are living our lives in Christ as we know Christ, asking forgiveness for our failings, committing to continue to grow in Christ through Bible reading, and Small group fellowship and sharing Christ when God provides those opportunities to help others going through the same issues that we have dealt with in life.  Even if it would mean persecution for doing so.

Pastor’s Pondering: How do principles 7&8 exemplify our church mission – Knowing, Growing and Sharing Christ?

 

Monday – Step 10 Crossroads

We continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it.

Scripture Reading: “So, if you think you are standing firm, be careful that you don’t fall!” 1Corinthians 10:12 NIV

Step 10 is the crossroads of life where we must continue to exam our lives in all that we think, say or do and when we find we are wrong, where we have fallen, we have to promptly admit it so we can correct it and continue in our life together in Christ and not fall back into the old life that God had recovered us from living.

Pastor’s Pondering: How might we stop examining our lives and find ourselves falling back into our old life?

 

Tuesday – Step 11 – Lesson Relapse & Gratitude

We sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.

Scripture Reading:  “Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly.” Colossians 3:16a

The key way to keep ourselves from sliding back into our old life is to completely focus on our new life in Christ.  It is to allow the Holy Spirit to show us other areas we need to grow in as a Christian.  It is to focus completely on our life in Christ that we have no time or attention to give to anything outside of our walk with Christ.  It is to let our gratitude to God for recovering us as his children by loving Christ with our whole heart, mind, soul and strength.  It is to “let the word of Christ dwell in you richly.”

Pastor’s Pondering: How does focusing on our life in Christ keep us from focusing on our former brokenness?

 

Wednesday – Step 12 – Give

Having had a spiritual experience as a result of these steps, we try to carry this message to others, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.

Scripture Reading: “Brothers, if someone is caught in a sin, you who are spiritual should restore him gently. But watch yourself, or you may also be tempted.”   Galatians 6:1 NIV

Giving back is sharing our spiritual experience with others by continuing to practice the principles and steps that Christ has taught us in all we do and say in life and “carry this message to others.  In so doing, if we know someone who is caught as we were caught we are to “restore him gently.”  Restoring gently is to do so with love and understanding.

Pastor’s Pondering: How can we best give back and help restore someone in life?

Thursday – Hurts

Scripture Reading: Genesis 23:19,20

The burial place becomes a reminder of the relationships forged through the hurt of grieving for both Abraham’s family and the Hittites in the land of Canaan.  But, it is not in places that relationships are maintained but in God.  Though this is a time and place of peace, it is only temporary as we can read and know the rest of the story.  This later on becomes the inheritance for Caleb in Israel’s return and conquest of the promised land.  The city becomes one of the six refuge cities in establishing Israel in the promised land.  But throughout the history of this land, it changes hands and ownership through the hurt of war.  True and everlasting peace is only brought on by sharing God’s love given to us through Jesus Christ.

Pastor’s Pondering: How is Sarah’s burial place a reminder of the hurts we have due to our brokenness and Christ being the Way, the Truth, and the Life?

Friday – Habits

Scripture Reading: 2 Samuel 12:26-31

David learns his lesson about his addiction and we see now that he returns to his proper place with his soldiers as King and when it is all done then returns to Jerusalem.  Through the rest of David’s story we see how God recovers him from his addiction, David stays on the path that God has set before him as King.  He not only doesn’t fall back to his old habits but seeks to help others keep from falling into the same problems that he had.

Pastor’s Pondering: Why is it important to not just refrain from going back to our addictions but help others who suffer from the same habits?

 

Saturday – Hang-ups

Scripture Reading: John 21:20-23

Oftentimes, our hang-ups come from our preoccupation with other people.  Jesus reminds Peter that what ultimately happens to them is not of our concern except how we can better Know, Grow and Share Christ together as disciples of Christ in obedience to God which is our spiritual worship and life.  In Christ, we can be recovered from our hurts, habits and hang-ups in life.

Pastor’s Pondering: Amen, So Let it Be With Me.

 

The 8 Be-Attitudes & 12 Steps of Change in Christ

Week 6(May 28 – June 3)

Sunday – Principle 6

Evaluate all my relationships. Offer forgiveness to those who have hurt me and make amends for harm I’ve done to others, except when to do so would harm them or others.

Scripture Reading: “Happy are the merciful.” Matthew 5:7 “Happy are the peacemakers.”   Matthew 5:9

To show mercy and be a peacemaker is about sharing forgiveness.  In the midst of our brokenness, in the midst of our recovery from our brokenness, and yes, throughout our lives as we hurt one another we must forgive one another.  The greater the hurt, the greater forgiveness is needed.  As a part of that forgiving there may need to be amends done to aid in restoring relationships.  But, there are times that to do so would be greater harm in life together.

Pastor’s Pondering: What is the connection between being merciful and a peacemaker and forgiveness?

 

Monday – Step 8 Amends

We made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all.

Scripture Reading:  “Do to others as you would have them do to you.” Luke 6:31

Step 8 is the first part of principle 6 in that as we make a list of people we have hurt it is to be willing to make amends to each one.  It is realizing that for each one on the list we should treat as we would hope people would do for us if they had hurt us.  It is the word of God given to us through Christ that should be the standard on how we treat all people.

Pastor’s Pondering: What makes it hard to want to make amends to all people we have hurt?

 

Tuesday – Step 9 – Forgiveness/Grace

We made direct amends to such people whenever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.

Scripture Reading: “Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to your brother; then come and offer your gift.”  Matthew 5:23-24 NIV

Step 9 is offering forgiveness and grace in making amends and sometimes it is to withhold direct amends when it would hurt them or others in doing so.  It is so important that Jesus teaches that if we are in the process of showing our love for God and remember an issue we have with a brother or sister that has broken our relationship then we are “first” go restore that relationship before offering our gift to God.  Offering forgiveness to one another demonstrates our understanding and appreciation for God forgiving us through Jesus Christ.

Pastor’s Pondering: How does Christ’s teaching challenge us in our making direct amends to one another?

 

Wednesday – Hurts

Scripture Reading: Genesis 23:17,18

As we look to grief in hang-ups, it also has a place in the hurts.  As we find in Abraham’s story, once the place is procured to bury Sarah, her body is laid to rest.  It is in a place that we read that all can see, “in the presence of the Hittites, in the presence of all who went in at the city gate.”  As all can see the grief shared in Sarah’s burial, they may all share in the hurt of that grief and the comfort of that shared love together.

Pastor’s Pondering: How can our relationships together bring comfort in our hurts?

Thursday – Hang-ups

Scripture Reading: Genesis 12:20

As we return to the story of Abraham, Sarai, and the Pharoah we find the last thing that Pharoah does after seeking forgiveness for what he did (even unknowingly) he made amends to them by sending them on their way with all that he had given them.  As they leave, I am sure they are feeling the victory they had not in themselves but what God had done even in their lack of faithfulness.  Even in the midst of our hang-ups like co-dependence, God can change, restore and recover couples into being couples who truly love and support one another.

Pastor’s Pondering: How is making amends/forgiving in grace needed to recover from our hang-ups?

 

Friday – Habits

Scripture Reading: 2 Samuel 12:24,25

After being restored to God, David finds he must be restored with Bathsheba.  Consoling her may not just have been about their son’s death but also seeking forgiveness for all he did to her through adultery, murder, and the death of their child.  In this then they were blessed by God together with the birth of Solomon.

Pastor’s Pondering: What all might be needed to be dealt with when our habits damage our relationships with God, ourselves, and each other?

Saturday – People

Scripture Reading: John 21:15-19

When Jesus questions Peter about Peter’s love for him, it is providing Peter a chance to repent by confessing his love three times countering his three denials and to make amends by “Feed my lambs/sheep.”  Action is a part of forgiveness, it is not just to say, I’m sorry” but to show it by making amends, taking action in love sharing forgiveness and grace with people in our lives (even when they may not deserve it).

Pastor’s Pondering: How should we “Feed my lambs/sheep” out of our love for Jesus?

The 8 Be-Attitudes & 12 Steps of Change in Christ

Week 5(May 21 – 27)

Sunday – Principle 5

Voluntarily submit to every change God wants to make in my life and humbly ask Him to remove my character defects.

Scripture Reading: “Happy are those whose greatest desire is to do what God requires.” Matthew 5:6

To have our greatest desire in life to be doing what God requires is to submit to God’s word and Spirit and allow God to change us even if our heart may not desire that change.  The hardest part of sanctification/transformation/change is when our mind says we need to change but our hearts want to hold onto our old ways.  It is then that we must in our attitude submit and pray to God to make that change in us in action, in mind, and in will.

Pastor’s Pondering: What all is required to “voluntarily submit” to what God requires?

 

Monday – Step 5 – Confess

We admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being, the exact nature of our wrongs.

Scripture Reading:  “Therefore, confess your sins to each other, and pray for each other, so that you may be healed.” James 5:16a NIV

Step 5 is the same as principle 4 in that after our moral inventory we are to confess our sins to God, ourselves and another person we trust so that we may pray about it while God works on it in us.

Pastor’s Pondering: How does confession bring about prayer and healing?

 

Tuesday – Step 6 – Ready

We were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.

Scripture Reading: “Humble yourselves before the Lord, and He will lift you up.” James 4:10 NIV

Step 6 is the same as principle 5 and we must be ready for God to remove all these defects of character by humbling ourselves and allowing God to lift us up.  We also must be ready for this to happen over time/our lives and not all at once.  This is a lifelong process.

Pastor’s Pondering: Why will it take a lifetime if we are entirely ready for God to remove all these defects of character?

 

Wednesday – Step 7 – Victory

We humbly asked him to remove all our short-comings.

Scripture Reading: “If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.” 1 John 1:9 NIV

Step 7 reminds us that we must live our lives in victory and not in defeat.  With our character defects, it is God that is working in bringing about the change.  So, as we are changed when we fail, we are forgiven, when we succeed, it is the Spirit working in us bringing to reality what Christ has offered to us as an inheritance.

Pastor’s Pondering: What does it mean to live our lives in victory even as God is working on the changes that are not yet?

 

Thursday – Hurts

Scripture Reading: Genesis 21:15-23

Hagar is hurting because of their break-up with Abraham and feeling isolated and helpless, weeping unto God finds God hearing her and caring for her and Ishmael.  She finds the victory in humbling herself to God and having God lift them up with a well and life in the wilderness where Ishmael thrives and gets a wife from Egypt.  Confessing her hurt to God, being ready to take action according to God’s plan brings them the victory in life even in the midst of a broken and bad relationship.

Pastor’s Pondering: Why can covering up the hurt in our lives keep us from knowing victory and developing scars in our life?

 

Friday – Hang-ups

Scripture Reading: Genesis 23:12-16

Even though Ephron offered the field for free, Abraham requests to pay the fair price for the field.  This prevents anyone from having hang-ups later on about Abraham receiving the field and cave for their burial place.  No one from Ephron’s family would feel slighted.  No one from the Hittites could get upset about the unfair treatment given a foreigner.  No one from Abraham’s family would have to worry about losing their burial place because it was given to them.  God gives Abraham the way to have peace about a place to bury their family in a foreign land.

Pastor’s Pondering: What are the ways that there can be victory in our grief?

Saturday – Habits

Scripture Reading: 2 Samuel 12:15-23

David finds that voluntarily submitting to the changes that God is bringing can be hard in that we still must suffer the consequences of our actions out of our habits.  David prays and fasts seeking God’s mercy on his son.  When the child dies, he recognizes his fault for this, humbles himself before the Lord by washing, anointing himself and then worshipping God.  He then goes home to eat trusting that God will lift him up and we find in the rest of the story that David gains victory over his sex addiction.

Pastor’s Pondering: How might we have to suffer great loss before we can gain victory over our habits?

The 8 Be-Attitudes & 12 Steps of Change in Christ

Week 4(May 14-20)

Sunday – Principle 4

Openly examine and confess my faults to myself, to God, and to someone I trust.

Scripture Reading: “Happy are the pure in heart, for they will see God.” Matthew 5:8

To be “pure in heart” is to have all sin removed.  This only happens when we confess our sins seeking forgiveness with ourselves, God, and someone who holds us accountable in our lives so they can help us truly repent which means to turn away from the sin/problem and in so doing being better able to “see God.”  Just as sin continues to creep into our lives so we must constantly be examining ourselves and confessing our faults so that we may continue to experience the changed life where Christ is central and God is clearly seen at work in us through the Holy Spirit.

Pastor’s Pondering: How does confession bring about the “pure in heart?”

 

Monday – Step 4 (Sponsor & Moral Inventory)

We made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.

Scripture Reading: “Let us examine our ways and test them, and let us return to the Lord.” Lamentations 3:40 NIV

To examine our ways and test them is to make a moral inventory of ourselves figuring out which are according to God’s good purpose and which of those that are not and “return to the Lord.”  Returning is confessing to God, asking for forgiveness and committing to change our wills and ways so that we may not sin again.

Pastor’s Pondering: How is examining ourselves required to return to the Lord?

Tuesday – Addictions

Scripture Reading: 2 Samuel 12:1-15

Even though David has not examined himself to return to the Lord, David has Nathan in his life whom God uses to confront David about his sinful path he is traveling.  We are to have that one person we can trust not to just to listen to us confess but also, if need be, to confront us so that we will confess to God, ourselves and that one person when we fall so that we may be restored.

Pastor’s Pondering: How important is it in our addictions to have that one person we can trust to help us examine and confess when we fall?

 

Wednesday – Co-Dependency

Scripture Reading: Genesis 12:19

When Pharoah confronts both Sarai and Abraham, it is as the one they should trust because God revealed to him what they are doing.  They then must confess their faults to God, each other and to the Pharoah.  Especially as an Addiction/co-dependent couple we need that person we can trust that would not only listen to our confession but also confront us to confess when we need it.  It can be the same for both or a different one for each.  Co-dependent’s need someone to give them the wisdom and courage to do what might be needed to be done.

Pastor’s Pondering: How might co-dependents need someone to help them see God’s purpose and will for them?

 

Thursday – Divorce/Relationship Scarring

Scripture Reading: Genesis 21:8-14

In the midst of God’s wondrous work in Abraham and Sarah’s life with the birth of Isaac, Hagar and Ishmael once again become an issue.  Sarah’s request forces Abraham to examine himself and in “distress” confesses to God and himself his feelings about it.  It is then that God reassures Abraham that He is at work, will care for, and has plans for Hagar and Ishmael.  Oftentimes, when we are in the midst of divorce/relationship break-up we will be distressed – we need to confess it to God, listen for God, and follow God trusting in what God is doing to keep from being scarred in life.

Pastor’s Pondering: How might confessing our distress to God, ourselves and someone we trust help keep us/heal us from being scarred?

Friday – Grief

Scripture Reading: Genesis 23:7-11

As Abraham, in the midst of his grief, shares with the Hittites the place that he would like to have for Sarah’s burial place, he must have been thinking, examining himself, his family, the Hittites and how his request might impact everyone to find that one place.  In that examination, he had to think about not just the place but the people and the relationship that they had together as a foreigner living in their land.  He must have considered who they had good relationships with and no faults between them.  This meant they would have confessed, amended and trusted each other in their lives together in the land.

Pastor’s Pondering: How are our relationships in life oftentimes reflected in our relationships in grief?

 

Saturday – Others

Scripture Reading: John 18:15-27

When Peter denies knowing Christ three times before the cock crows, it is with the crowing that Peter is convicted of his denials.  Even though he remains close to Jesus, out of fear, he separates himself from Christ and with each denial gets further away in his separation from Jesus.  The gospel of John doesn’t mention Peter again until he runs to the empty tomb of Jesus.  I imagine he stood there confused and alone like we are before we examine and confess our brokenness.

Pastor’s Pondering: How is our brokenness our denying Jesus Christ in our life?

The 8 Be-Attitudes & 12 Steps of Change in Christ

Week 3(May 7-13)

Sunday – Principle 3

Consciously choose to commit all my life and will to Christ’s care and control.

Scripture Reading: “Happy are the meek, for they will inherit the earth.” Matthew 5:5

To be meek is to humble ourselves to something greater than us.  It is to recognize that to truly be happy/blessed is to make Jesus our Lord in life.  That means we must consciously choose to submit “to Christ’s care and control.”  It is only then that Christ can give to us our inheritance as Children of God which is to become children of God through salvation and transformation.

Pastor’s Pondering:  What is the connection between humbling/submitting to Christ and “inherit” a life in Christ?

 

 

Monday – Step 3 (Turning & Action)

We made a decision to turn our lives and our wills over to the care of God.

Scripture Reading: “Therefore, I urge you, brothers, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God – this is your spiritual act of worship.” Romans 12:1 NIV

Step 3 is making the decision, knowing of God’s love for us, to offer up our whole lives to God.  Worship is sharing our love with God through what we think, say and do.  To truly worship God, is to give our whole lives to God, leaving nothing out which would mean allowing God to remove those things that are not pleasing to God… whatever that may be.

Pastor’s Pondering: What is the connection between our worship and our commitment/decision to “turn our lives and wills over to the care of God?

Tuesday – Addictions

Scripture Reading: 2 Samuel 11:6-27

Instead of truly being committed to his life as God’s king for Israel and worshipping God instead we see David trying to cover up his addiction and consequences of his addiction which means he sins even more.  When he can’t trick Uriah so that he will think the child is his, David has him killed in battle.  David’s adultery leads him to become a murderer.  Even with this, he still hasn’t reached the point of mourning to come to God.  The power of addiction is so strong that it keeps David from turning to God and even leads him further away from God.

Pastor’s Pondering: Why do addictions seem to lead us away from God?

Wednesday – Co-Dependency

Scripture Reading: Genesis 12:17

As this passage points out that God still can work even when co-dependents aren’t doing their part in recovery.  That is because both people have to be recovered.  Just as God will work with the one with addiction so God will work with the co-dependent in both direct and indirect ways.  In this case, it is with the Pharoah that he will return Sarai to Abram.  In so doing, God is working with both and their lack of faith in God.

Pastor’s Pondering: How can it be more difficult working with both addicts and co-dependents?

 

Thursday – Divorce/Relationship Scarring

Scripture Reading: Genesis 16:10-16

Before Hagar returns to Abram and Sarai, the angel(messenger) of the Lord reveals the future of her baby.  She even names the angel and the well where it happened for people to remember and know the Lord appeared to her.  She returns to Abram and bears Abram a son, Ishmael.  She has committed her life to God and follows God’s plan as a  life of worship of God.  At this time, it restores her relationship with Abram.

Pastor’s Pondering: How difficult might it be in cases of divorce and seeming relationship break-up to be humble and commit to God?

 

Friday – Grief

Scripture Reading: Genesis 23:3-6

In grief, we find the first shock is having to make arrangements for the burial.  Abraham finds himself in the predicament of not having a burial place for they are not in their homeland but in Canaan – a foreign land that God brought them to live.  In faithfulness in life, Abraham and Sarah followed God and now in Sarah’s death, Abraham must follow God to find a place to bury Sarah.  He approaches the Hittites to secure a burial place. It must have been out of obedience to God’s leading as Abraham is still in the shock of Sarah’s death and most likely is in the auto-pilot stage of grief.

Pastor’s Pondering: How does having committed our life to God help us in dealing with the mechanics of burial in the midst of our grief?

 

Saturday – Other

Scripture Reading: John 18:10,11

When Peter lashes out with the sword and cuts off the high priest’s slave’s ear, it is out of his own understanding of the situation and not in Christ.  Though his intention is to protect Jesus, he is reprimanded by Jesus for getting in the way of God’s plan.  There are times when what may seem right to us is contrary to what is in God’s plan.  We need to consult Jesus in all things before taking action to receive Christ’s care and control and for our lives to be our spiritual worship.

Pastor’s Pondering: How important is prayer for our lives to be spiritual worship of God?

 

The 8 Be-Attitudes & 12 Steps of Change in Christ

Week 2 (April 30 – May 6)

Sunday – Principle 2

Earnestly believe that God exists, that I matter to Him, and that He has the power to help me recover.

Scripture Reading: “Happy are those who mourn for they shall be comforted.” Matthew 5:4

After Realizing that I am not God and the condition that we find ourselves in, we are at a place where we can find God.  It is when we are mourning that we typically turn to God and in so doing find comfort in not only that God exists, but that he cares for us, and gives us the power to help us with whatever is making us mourn.  Comfort then comes from believing in God and God’s love for us.

Pastor’s Pondering: What is the connection between mourning, God, and comfort in life?

 

Monday – Step 2 (Hope and Sanity)

We came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.

Scripture Reading: “For it is God who is at work in you to will and to act according to His good purpose. Philippians 2:13 NIV

The second step and principle are similar in that we believe that God is the power greater than ourselves that can work in us to restore us to sanity which is acting according to God’s good pleasure.  The hope that we have in life is that there is a purpose, plan, and sense to our life.  In God, we find that out of God’s caring for us he gives us the power that if we just believe in God, God’s love, God’s work in our lives then we will have hope, sanity and purpose even in the darkest storms.

Pastor’s Pondering: What is the connection between “to will and to act according to God’s good purpose” in restoring us to sanity?

 

Tuesday – Addictions

Scripture Reading: 2 Samuel 11:1-5

As we look to King David, even though he is a “man after God’s own heart,” one area he appears to keep to himself is his addiction to women and sex.  We find in this passage that this addiction is going to lead him to his point of mourning.  But before that happens we find that like everyone with addictions, it has become the most important thing in David’s life.  As King, he should be out with his army leading in battle but he has stayed behind.  Walking the rooftop, his heart is not towards God but instead towards a woman bathing in plain view.  This he pursues instead of God and God’s plan and purpose for him.  God cares and has the power to help us but we must turn completely to him.  Addictions prevent us from doing this until we are in extreme mourning.  Even David hasn’t gotten to this point… yet.

Pastor’s Pondering: Why might it be so difficult for people with addictions to turn to God?

 

Wednesday – Co-dependency

Scripture Reading: Genesis 12:10-16

The result of co-dependency is that one does not help but actually can assist the other person with their issue/problem.  When we look to Abram and Sarai, we find that, in this situation, when Abram doesn’t consult God and out of fear, tells everyone that Sarai is his sister, Sarai agrees to the plan even when the Pharoah wants to take her as his wife.  Instead of helping our dependent deal with their problem by believing in and turning to God we find we become or are a Co-dependent like Sarai and Abram.

Pastor’s Pondering:   Why do couples with one addictive nature and the other being a co-dependent seem to not believe and turn to God to be restored to a healthy couple?

 

Thursday – Divorce/Relationship Scarring

Scripture Reading: Genesis 16:1-10

As we continue looking to Abraam and Sarai’s story, we find within it as we look to divorce and relationship scarring, the story of Hagar.  As a consequence of Abram and Sarais’ lack of faith in God, Hagar gets caught up in bad relationships that one would think would lead to scarring.  When she runs away from Sarai, and at the point of her mourning – the angel of the Lord found her and came to her.  He assures her that God has a plan and a purpose for her and to return to Abram and Sarai.  Even in the worst of relationship situations, God wants to be there.

Pastor’s Pondering: How might someone going through divorce/Relationship break-up feel that God wouldn’t care about them?

 

Friday – Grief

Scripture Reading: Genesis 23:1,2

Our final story of Abraham that we look to is his grief with the death of Sarah.  After a long life together (Sarah was 127 years old), we read of her death and Abraham’s grieving.  Grief is a part of loving and when a loved one dies, grief becomes a part of our lives.  It is all consuming in the beginning but, in God, it is to lessen in time.  In God, we are to see the hope and promise of eternal life together in Christ, and with that promise find comfort and, in time, the loss and confusion of death, is replaced with the sanity of God’s love and work in our continuing lives.

Pastor’s Pondering: How are we to find hope and sanity in the midst of our grief over death of a loved one?

 

Saturday – Other

Scripture Reading: John 13:36-38

The all-encompassing “other” group is for all the other forms of brokenness that we need Christ to recover us.  As we look to Peter, even though he tries to earnestly believe in Christ and vows to give of his own life for Jesus, Jesus forewarns Peter of his forthcoming denials.  Even with our best of intentions in believing and following Jesus, we do not know what we are going to encounter in life so in order to have hope and sanity it is to keep seeking God’s purpose, plan and power in Christ.

Pastor’s Pondering: How might we lose our bearing by being over-confident in our faith?

The 8 Be-Attitudes & 12 Steps of Change in Christ

Week 1 (April 23 – 29)

Sunday – Principle 1

Realize I’m not God. I admit that I am powerless to control my tendency to do the wrong thing and that my life is unmanageable.

Scripture Reading: “Happy are those who know they are spiritually poor.”  Matthew 5:3      

The first step and attitude change we must make in order for Christ to change us is to recognize we need God. Before that realization, we act as God in our lives.  Whether it is ourselves or our families, our friends, our education, our doctors, our government, or even just life, whatever we base our trust in, we still make ourselves God because it is based on our own thought outside of God.  When Jesus says “Blessed are the poor in Spirit…” it is for when we recognize that we humans are not God and outside of God we are a mess.

Pastor’s Pondering: How does thinking we have our own solutions to life prevent us from truly changing in life?    

 

Monday – Step 1 (Denial & Powerless)

We admitted we were powerless over our addictions and compulsive behavior, that our lives had become unmanageable.

Scripture Reading: “I know that nothing good lives in me, that is, in my sinful nature. For I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out.”  Romans 7:18

Two things keep us from taking that first step to being transformed/changed/recovered.  Denial is thinking that we don’t have a problem or need to change.  Denial makes ourselves the authority in life and God, our families, our friends, or anyone else, who may tell us differently someone we can’t trust.  Powerless is knowing that there is a problem but the feeling that there isn’t anything that we or anyone can do about it.  It is in recognizing that we have these two roadblocks to change that we can begin to consider ways they can be overcome.

Pastor’s Pondering:  How does Denial and Powerless prevent us from receiving the help we need to change?    

 

Tuesday – Addictions

Scripture Reading: Proverbs 20:1

When Addictions are the manner in which we deal with life’s issues we make it our God that can become an all-consuming way of life.  It does not deal with life’s issues but only masks them and yes, compounds them.  Addictions, by nature, first are hidden by Denial and then, take over our lives with Powerless.  We first think we don’t have a problem and by the time we realize we have a problem we find we are powerless to deal with it.  But, in recognizing denial and powerless they are ready to reach out for help.

Pastor’s Pondering: How are Addictions more than just a bad habit?

 

Wednesday – Co-dependency

Scripture Reading: Genesis 3:1-7

When seemingly out of love, a person begins to support an Addict in their addiction they become or are a “Co-dependent.”  This can be a result of Denial and/or Powerless.  They may deny that this person has a problem or they may deny that they themselves have a problem of Co-dependency.  They may not realize how they are “feeding” the problem through their own actions and words.  They may feel powerless to change their loved one, themselves or their situation.  But, in recognizing denial and powerless they are ready to reach out for help.

Pastor’s Pondering: How is Co-dependency a problem?

 

Thursday – Divorce/Relationship Scarring

Scripture Reading: Matthew 19:3-12

“…there are eunuchs who have been made eunuchs by others…”  I have always understood this passage as reference to those who were hurt and scarred relationally in their lives.  This is not just in the case of divorce where this often occurs but can be when people are hurt so badly in their lives that they carry these hurts which prevent them from having a healthy marriage relationship.  In Denial, they may not know or they ignore the hurt or they may feel powerless to change anything and so resolve to just live with it and, as a result, never really recover in their lives.  But, in recognizing denial and powerless they are ready to reach out for help.

Pastor’s Pondering: How can relational scars develop that would prevent someone to be able to love?

 

Friday – Grief

Scripture Reading: Psalm 30:5, 11,12

Grief is a normal part of life in this broken world.  There is a normal flow/process of grieving that occurs which is slightly different for each person.  But, sometimes we can get stuck in grief and/or it becomes the overwhelming, all-consuming focus in life.  At this point we may deny it when others are trying to help or we may feel powerless to move beyond our loss and grief in life.   At this point we have allowed grief to become our God in life and we must do something different to change it.  But, in recognizing denial and powerless they are ready to reach out for help.

Pastor’s Pondering: What ways can grief become our God/focus in life and prevent us from knowing “joy comes with the morning?”

 

Saturday – Other

Scripture Reading: Psalm 1:1-3

In life, we all develop issues that must be dealt with.  In this world’s brokenness, we are broken.  We may deny it and in so doing we make ourselves God and are sinners.  We may feel powerless in our wickedness and feel there is no hope.  Except, the Word of God can convict us so that we may come to God to be changed which leads us to the second principle and step to Recovery/Transformation.

Pastor’s Pondering: How is the first principle and step simply recognizing that we are sinners?